I’m a naturally open and direct person. I value honesty, clarity, and quickly getting to the heart of things. But I’ve learned that not everyone interacts that way—and that my directness can sometimes feel overwhelming or abrupt to people who are wired differently. God has been teaching me to slow down, listen first, and adjustContinue reading “Wise Openness: Sharing Honestly Without Oversharing”
Category Archives: Conflict
Pastoral Insights for Healthy Group Multiplication
Multiplying groups signifies health and growth, but can also bring challenges. As leaders, we want to shepherd our people with care so that relationships remain strong and God is glorified. Here are 10 relational dangers to watch out for and Scripture to guide you as you lead through them. 1. Not Communicating with the Sending Group 2.Continue reading “Pastoral Insights for Healthy Group Multiplication”
10 Dangers All Church Community Groups Face
I’ve been thinking about these dangers and adding to this list for the past week. As I think through most of these, I must say, “Been there, done that!” Experience can be the best teacher! As you think and pray through these, ask yourself, “Am I at this point? If so, what conversation with theContinue reading “10 Dangers All Church Community Groups Face”
The Anonymous Letter (or email)…
I’m a little surprised that I’ve never received one—not that I want one—no one does. When I served a small church in my 30s, and someone asked me if I’d ever received an anonymous letter or email; I said, “Nope. The ones that have an issue with me usually just tell me!” I had aContinue reading “The Anonymous Letter (or email)…”
From Anxiety to Openness: Asking for Meetings that Build Trust
The way we ask for meetings matters to you and those you meet. Making a few adjustments in how you ask for a meeting or ask for clarification can help maintain respect and earn trust. We’ve all sent that vague text, “Hey, can we meet?” Sometimes those on the receiving end can have a panic attack, question theirContinue reading “From Anxiety to Openness: Asking for Meetings that Build Trust”
Navigating the Stumbles: Guiding Disciples in Grace and Truth
Discipleship involves growth, discernment, and correction. Disciple-makers guide learners through mistakes with love, patience, and a foundation in Scripture for spiritual maturity.
Lessons Learned from a Public Confrontation: Encouragement and Reflection
The author recalls an encounter in a restaurant where an unhappy individual criticized their conversation. Reflecting on the experience, they emphasize the importance of graciousness and sensitivity in public discussions, as well as the need to respond with kindness to those who criticize. They also highlight the value of learning from negative experiences for personal and spiritual growth.
Toby DeHay 