Pastoral ministry is often associated with words. We preach, teach, counsel, explain, and exhort. Words are central to our calling, and rightly so. Yet some of the most meaningful moments in shepherding God’s people require fewer words than we might expect. Pastoral visits — particularly in seasons of suffering, grief, confusion, or discouragement — oftenContinue reading “The Wisdom of Speaking Less in Pastoral Care”
Category Archives: Personal Growth
Evidence of New Life
Reflections on 1 John 5:1–5 In the Christian life, it’s easy to ask an important question: How do I know that someone truly has new life in Christ? The apostle John helps answer that question in the First Epistle of John 5:1–5. In these verses, he gives us a simple but powerful framework for recognizingContinue reading “Evidence of New Life”
When A Brother (or Sister) Won’t Listen
Few things are more frustrating than trying to help someone you care about, only to see them ignore your efforts. You offer gentle advice, share Scripture, and show concern, but nothing changes. Whether it’s a friend making poor choices, a family member stuck in harmful habits, or a fellow believer who won’t accept correction, youContinue reading “When A Brother (or Sister) Won’t Listen”
“How Can I Help?”: Words That Can Actually Hurt
Few phrases sound more caring than “How can I help?” We use it at hospital bedsides, after funerals, in online comments, and in church hallways. It seems compassionate. It seems Christian. But often, those words don’t lead to anything. The person in pain nods politely. “I’m okay. Thanks.” We walk away feeling relieved, thinking weContinue reading ““How Can I Help?”: Words That Can Actually Hurt”
From Anxiety to Openness: Asking for Meetings that Build Trust
The way we ask for meetings matters to you and those you meet. Making a few adjustments in how you ask for a meeting or ask for clarification can help maintain respect and earn trust. We’ve all sent that vague text, “Hey, can we meet?” Sometimes those on the receiving end can have a panic attack, question theirContinue reading “From Anxiety to Openness: Asking for Meetings that Build Trust”
When Boundaries Become Unbiblical
Boundaries, at their best, are a biblical tool for managing our hearts, relationships, and responsibilities. They help define where we end and others begin. As Henry Cloud writes in his book Boundaries, “Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me.” Scripture affirms the value of wise limits: These verses highlightContinue reading “When Boundaries Become Unbiblical”
McDonald’s and Disciple Making: A Simple, Effective Strategy for Meeting
3-minute read For many of us, McDonald’s is just a fast-food restaurant, but it can also be a strategic meeting place for disciple-makers. I’ve found that gathering at McDonald’s for coffee provides a consistent, low-cost, and accessible setting for disciple-making. Here’s why—and how you can leverage this approach in your disciple-making efforts. (Apologies to myContinue reading “McDonald’s and Disciple Making: A Simple, Effective Strategy for Meeting”
Intentionality: Think A-Z Instead of L, M, N, or O.
The A-to-Z Approach to Disciple Making: A Comprehensive Path to Spiritual Maturity One of the most common misunderstandings in disciple making is the tendency to focus on a book study or a particular spiritual topic without considering the full scope of discipleship. While studying books and specific topics are important, they often concentrate on aContinue reading “Intentionality: Think A-Z Instead of L, M, N, or O.”
What the Bible Says About Discipling, Mentoring, Counseling, Coaching, Ministering, and Befriending
The panel at Bridgeway Church emphasized discipleship as the core of mentoring, counseling, coaching, ministering, and befriending. Discipleship fosters spiritual growth, enabling individuals to serve and guide others. Each role is interconnected, aiming to lead others toward deeper faith and obedience to Christ, fulfilling the Great Commission.
Navigating the Stumbles: Guiding Disciples in Grace and Truth
Discipleship involves growth, discernment, and correction. Disciple-makers guide learners through mistakes with love, patience, and a foundation in Scripture for spiritual maturity.
Toby DeHay 