Author Archives: tcdehay

The Wisdom of Speaking Less in Pastoral Care

Pastoral ministry is often associated with words. We preach, teach, counsel, explain, and exhort. Words are central to our calling, and rightly so. Yet some of the most meaningful moments in shepherding God’s people require fewer words than we might expect. Pastoral visits — particularly in seasons of suffering, grief, confusion, or discouragement — oftenContinue reading “The Wisdom of Speaking Less in Pastoral Care”

Evidence of New Life

Reflections on 1 John 5:1–5 In the Christian life, it’s easy to ask an important question: How do I know that someone truly has new life in Christ? The apostle John helps answer that question in the First Epistle of John 5:1–5. In these verses, he gives us a simple but powerful framework for recognizingContinue reading “Evidence of New Life”

When A Brother (or Sister) Won’t Listen

Few things are more frustrating than trying to help someone you care about, only to see them ignore your efforts. You offer gentle advice, share Scripture, and show concern, but nothing changes. Whether it’s a friend making poor choices, a family member stuck in harmful habits, or a fellow believer who won’t accept correction, youContinue reading “When A Brother (or Sister) Won’t Listen”

“How Can I Help?”: Words That Can Actually Hurt

Few phrases sound more caring than “How can I help?” We use it at hospital bedsides, after funerals, in online comments, and in church hallways. It seems compassionate. It seems Christian. But often, those words don’t lead to anything. The person in pain nods politely. “I’m okay. Thanks.” We walk away feeling relieved, thinking weContinue reading ““How Can I Help?”: Words That Can Actually Hurt”

Actually Love One Another

(Taken from my sermon to Bridgeway Church on 4 Jan 26.) It’s surprisingly easy to say the right words while carrying the wrong heart. When I was a kid, my brother and I would get into fights. Nothing serious—no police involved—but severe enough that “the law” would show up. The law was mom. There wereContinue reading “Actually Love One Another”

The Baseball Fan’s Bucket List

My Baseball Fan’s Bucket List: What I’ve Done—And What’s Left To Experience If you love baseball, The Baseball Fan’s Bucket List by Robert and Jenna Santelli is one of the most enjoyable guides ever written for America’s pastime. It’s a celebration of the sights, sounds, and stories that make baseball more than a sport—it’s aContinue reading “The Baseball Fan’s Bucket List”

Devoted to the Word: Building a Healthy Rhythm of Studying Scripture in Community

The early church had a simple rhythm that shaped everything they did. They were devoted — not casual, not occasional, but steadfastly committed — to learning the Word of God together. Their devotion to “the apostles’ teaching” was not just an intellectual exercise but a relational and transformational practice that built a gospel-shaped community. InContinue reading “Devoted to the Word: Building a Healthy Rhythm of Studying Scripture in Community”

Pastoral Insights for Healthy Group Multiplication

Multiplying groups signifies health and growth, but can also bring challenges. As leaders, we want to shepherd our people with care so that relationships remain strong and God is glorified. Here are 10 relational dangers to watch out for and Scripture to guide you as you lead through them. 1. Not Communicating with the Sending Group 2.Continue reading “Pastoral Insights for Healthy Group Multiplication”

10 Dangers All Church Community Groups Face

I’ve been thinking about these dangers and adding to this list for the past week. As I think through most of these, I must say, “Been there, done that!” Experience can be the best teacher! As you think and pray through these, ask yourself, “Am I at this point? If so, what conversation with theContinue reading “10 Dangers All Church Community Groups Face”